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Your second marriage and wedding

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The decision of a second marriage is usually a lot harder to take than it was your first one. You are older, wiser, more life experienced, but at the same time afraid that this marriage can also go wrong. The first thing to do is lay the past to rest. And then have faith in your future. A second marriage is the beginning of a new life for you and your husband. So you have to start it right. Here are some tips that may help you.

1. Don't compare with your last wedding.

2. If you want a religious ceremony see what it is required: if you belong to the Roman Catholic you will need an annulment; if you are Est Europa Orthodox you just talk with the priest (the church allows a second religious ceremonial for those who are divorced); if you are Episcopalian you will need the bishop's permission to remarry; if you are Conservative or Orthodox Jewish, you will need to receive a Get (Jewish divorce) from your ex-husband.

4. Decide if you want a large or a small reception. The etiquette says that for the second marriage the bride should have a shorter veil (or none) and the gown should not be full length. Also the confetti/rice traditions are improper. The same goes for throwing the garter or the bouquet. But if you want to have all these things, nothing should stop you. It is your decision.

5. Write carefully the guests list. Some of them were at your first wedding too and maybe they won't come. But most of them will send presents as a sign of approval of the new wedding. Usually it's better to leave the ex spouse and ex parents in law out. But if you've remained in good terms you may invite them as well.

6. Pay attention to the children. Announce them as soon as possible. Don't let them hear from someone else but you. They may reject the idea of the second marriage and you have to be very diplomatic in treating the issue. If they are happy for you, you may give them responsibilities according to the age (flower girl, ring bearer, best man, bridesmaid) so they feel welcome in the new formed family.

7. Usually the second wedding is paid entirely by the couple. So you have to be very careful about the budget. But if the parents want to help, let them. After all, they are your parents and they want you to be happy.

8. Wit it being the second marriage some legal issues may be required (especially if there are children involved). Talk to your lawyer about them.

9. You may want a honeymoon. Don't go to a location that brings you old memories. Use the time to create new memories.

9. And most importantly: don't be ashamed to show the world that you are once again in love. You deserve to be happy.



See Also

Best Man Wedding Duties
Wedding check list
Holiday wedding
choosing your wedding florist
church or a civil ceremony
Your own wedding flowers
Enjoying your wedding
Family conflict
First Wedding Dance
Wedding gifts
Nervous your wedding day
Who to invite
Dealing with Wedding Pressure
Last Minute Weddings
Lucky wedding symbols
Maid of Honor Duties
Making your Own Wedding Buffet
Making Your Own Wedding Cake
Planning your wedding reception
Wedding reception meals
Second marriage
Wedding Themes
Wedding Jokes
Celebrity Weddings
The Wedding Night
Wedding Bells
Wedding cameras
Choosing your Wedding Date
Wedding Gifts
Wedding Guide
White Wedding

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